Wednesday, March 31, 2010
Is age just really a number
This is a phrase that people like to throw around a lot. Some have cut-offs others don't care and some have a small window or range to work within. Myself I am always willing to try and see. I think everyone is different and you never know unless you try. Date #5 is ten years my senior. Judging from his photo he seems to take very good care of himself, and from what I could tell in the emails very nice. So we decide to meet and he picks Cheesecake Factory. I drive out there from work still in my business casual which I hate, but whatever it's just a date. I arrive early and send him a text he said that he will be down in 10min. I sit at the bar and he comes in and orders a drink and sits next to me. We both decide that sitting inside on a beautiful night is such a waste so we request an outdoor table. We sit out at the table and he confesses that he hates the Cheesecake Factory. This statement I am still confused by. Perhaps he didn't care where the drink was and he just wanted to check the goods. Whatever the case we don't even finish our drink and head over across the street to a place that he really likes. This is another confusing move. At any rate we try to get a table outside but to no avail. We agree to sit in and get a drink. Conversation was light and very detailed on things like travel, work, personal accomplishments, hobbies, etc. Pretty much the typical first date. I head to the restroom after he returns from the same and we head out. I said that I had a great time and he agreed asked to see me again and walked me to my car. All in all a very nice time, and it is still to be determined if age will factor on this. I think that at any age he would be attractive and this is where men have an advantage on women. I think that there are aspects in dating someone older that know no age, like, humor, manners, confidence, and consideration. These are the things that should matter the most as these things don't age and therefore do not run the risk of expiring. The other aspects that I am sure you can guess can and are not what build a relationship. However, are still meaningful in sustaining or bring two people together. I think age very much matters and it's where your weights are on the aspects that have expiration dates that determine how much.